
Resources
Understanding How Grief - Affects the Brain
Grief not only impacts our emotions but also brings significant changes to the brain, affecting memory, stress levels, and overall well-being.
Dying - for Beginners
This video explains the dying process very gently so that we understand it better and can have conversations with friends and family about it.
Love Your Pet - Grief Support
In this article we acknowledge the value of pets in supporting grief and the pain we can also experience when they die.
Looking - After Yourself
After the funeral, everyone else's lives seem to go back to normal, and you may be left wondering how you're going to cope. Read on for advice on taking care of yourself, crucial for your future wellbeing and that of others.
Bereavement - in Older Age
Although losing a loved one is perhaps more common in later life, this doesn’t make it any easier to deal with. If someone you know has been bereaved, there are some simple things you can do to support them.
The Benefits of - ‘Grief’ Gardening
When you lose someone, the grief will never go away completely — but there are healthy ways to cope. Some people find that gardening as they grieve, known as ‘grief gardening’, can gently relieve some of the emotional and physical symptoms after the loss of a loved one.
Losing a Loved One - Takes Your Breath Away
AtaLoss Subject Matter Expert, Sabine Horner is a nutritionist. Here she writes about how deep breathing can help us deal with the storms of emotion when we're bereaved.
Top Tips to Keep - Well Hydrated When Grieving
Read here why keeping hydrated in grief is important and how that can be achieved.
Supporting Grieving - Young People Training
ListeningPeople training and resources provide tools for teachers, youth workers, counsellors and anyone who works with young people to safely and confidently enable them to engage around the difficult topic of loss.
Symptoms -
Our Body’s Response to Emotional Stress: Unveiling Hidden Causes of Common Grief Symptoms. Are you puzzled by the myriad of grief symptoms you are experiencing?
Funerals: Find an Independent - Funeral Director near You
Find here how The National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors (known as SAIF) can help.
Funerals: Everything a - Young Person Needs to Know
A useful film and book to help any young person understand funerals (burial and cremation) and decide whether to attend and what role they can play in saying goodbye to a loved one.
Surviving Christmas - When You Are Bereaved
Tips for surviving Christmas when you are bereaved. First and second day of Christmas.
Counselling: - What You Need to Know
We provide some information here about what counselling is, what to expect and how to find a good counsellor that suits your needs. The information is helpfully provided by the Association of Christian Counsellors.
The Final Farewell: - The Power of Discussing Death
We can better prepare for loss, change the negative narrative, and remove the taboo by talking about death.
Christmas… a Difficult Time for - Those Who Are Grieving
Christmas is a difficult time for those grieving. This is the season of traditions and family gatherings and a by-product is that it highlights the ‘missing-person-shaped’ hole in our lives.
Annually - Remembering
We encourage people who have been bereaved to consider activities on offer at this time to mark loved ones and help them with their grief.
Baby Loss - and Grief
Losing a baby is one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through. This article covers how to understand the impact of baby loss and how to help those who have gone through it.
Supporting Grieving Students - Returning to University
As the new university year begins, supporting young adults as they navigate being away from home can be challenging. Here our Founder, Yvonne Tulloch provides quick tips on how to do so.
- Befriending
Loneliness is often something we experience following bereavement and can happen at any age. This article provides links to services that can help.
Preventing Drastic - Weight Loss in Grief
Sabine Horner explains why eating can become a major issue after losing a loved one. In the early days, most grievers simply do not feel hungry.
Losing a - Child
The death of a child, of any age, brings heartbreak and devastation. This article was written by Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds who set up the Good Grief Project following the death of their son, Josh.
Nourish Your Body - When You Are Grieving
Nutritionist Sabine Horner recommends ways to nourish your body when you are grieving.
Rosemary for - Remembrance Cake
A recipe for how to bake a Rosemary for Remembrance Cake from Nigella Lawson’s book Feast.
Why We Can’t Stomach Food - When We Lose a Loved One
Grief can cause a decreased appetite and other food related issues.
Michael Rosen's Sad Book by Michael Rosen
BOOK: A beautifully illustrated read for adults and children about love and loss which explains why it's ok to be sad sometimes.
The Bereavement Register
WEBSITE AND ONLINE SERVICE: Helping to stop unwanted direct mail to the deceased
The Boys Are Back in Town by Simon Carr
BOOK: A father bringing up boys after the death of his wife
Living on the Seabed by Lindsay Nicholson
BOOK: Lindsay Nicholson looks at the grieving process and offers a roadmap to help all of us navigate a path none of us chooses but all of us must walk.
Leaving a Legacy and - Reducing Your Tax Liability
Leaving a part or your entire estate to a charity can reduce, and in some situations, eliminate your Inheritance Tax liability.
How to - Hold Your Own Memorial
If you can’t attend a funeral or have chosen not to do so you may want to hold your own memorial service for the person you have lost.
Learning Disabilities - and Bereavement
This briefing is produced by Brake, the road safety charity. It aims to raise awareness of how people with learning disabilities experience grief, and provides advice on how to support them.
The Grief - Goes On...
Dr Marianne Trent, a Clinical Psychologist and Author of 'The Grief Collective', talks about mourning and letting other people know you are bereaved.
How to Cope - with a Tragedy
Every death brings its own trauma to survivors. However, when someone is suddenly killed in an accident or murdered, the stress levels rise considerably for those left behind.
Traumatic Bereavement
Trauma refers to the way that some distressing events are so extreme or shocking that they overwhelm a person’s ability to cope, resulting in lasting negative impact.
What Is Effective Bereavement Support?
There is a lot of good intention around when it comes to bereavement support in terms of providing it but not a great deal of understanding of all the options available and the benefits of informal support.
Magnesium: Your Ally in Managing Grief Symptoms
One often-overlooked factor in managing grief is ensuring we are getting enough magnesium. Magnesium is an essential mineral that plays a pivotal role in over 300 biological processes in our body.
Autism and - Bereavement
There is not a great deal of research on how people with autism deal with bereavement. However there is useful advice available that can help us support anyone with autism, whatever their age.
What to Do If Someone Dies Abroad
If your loved one dies abroad there are a whole set of considerations to take into account. However, there are people to help you and you should seek their advice if you find yourself in this situation.
Registering a Death
Registering the death of someone is the official record that their life has ended and is the formal government record of that fact.
Funerals: How to Plan One
Our guide on how to plan a funeral. A funeral is an opportunity to create a special tribute to your loved one and whilst painful, can also be memorable and a positive experience.
Protecting Against Identity Fraud
We all know that thanks to the wide availability of personal information online identity fraud is increasing. But what happens when an identity is stolen after a person has died?
How to Deal With Someone’s Belongings After They Have Died
This article outlines the ways that belongings can be passed on after someone has died and what the legal rules may be.
Government Advice When Someone Dies
There’s a lot of Government advice to help and support you when someone dies. This article explains more.
Funeral Etiquette in Different Faiths
If you are attending the funeral of a someone of a different faith you can get advice here on, for example, what to expect, how to pay your respects, how to send condolences and what to wear to the funeral.
Five Tips for Supporting a Grieving Young Person
Here are five tips for supporting young people who are bereaved.
Cancelling Mail
This is our guide to cancelling mail. Receiving post for the person who has died can be very difficult. Depending on the type of mail, there are a variety of practical measures you can take to deal with the problem.
Official Documents: How to Easily Cancel Them
Using the Government's ‘Tell Us Once’ service will ensure all government departments are informed. This includes passports, driving licenses, pensions, benefits, national insurance, tax and blue badges.
Benefits and Bereavement
Benefits for you if you are a partner or child of the deceased. Depending on which of your loved ones has died your tax allowances, National Insurance and benefits may change.
Funerals: How to Be Involved If You Can’t Attend
Saying goodbye at a funeral is a significant part of our relationship with the person we have lost, whoever they are. We may dread it, of course, but we still want to be present and to get it ‘right’ as a fitting tribute to all that they were to us.
When Children Grieve by John W. James and Russell Friedman
In When Children Grieve, the authors offer a cutting-edge volume to free children from the false idea of “not feeling bad” and to empower them with positive, effective methods of dealing with loss.
The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman
Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on the capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories as well as from others’, the authors illustrate how it is possible to recovery from grief and regain energy and spontaneity.
Dancing When the Lights Go Out
BOOK: an emotional and profound exploration of grief, loss, and the societal taboo surrounding these experiences.
Baby Mail Preference Service
Free service which allows you to register not to receive baby related mailings.
Getting Your Affairs in Order Before You Die
'Your Last Gift' is a practical step-by-step guide to getting your paperwork together, to help your loved ones deal easily with the 'sadmin' after your death. It has received excellent reviews. READ MORE HERE
Coping with - a Tragedy
When a death is senseless, involves multiple losses or children, or when it could have been avoided, there is a deeper sense of trauma and grief.
Bereaved by Addiction or Substance Abuse
Finding support and how to give support to anyone bereaved by addiction and substance abuse
Keeping Your Feet on the Ground When a Loved One Dies
Deep breathing can guide you through the storm of emotions following the loss of a loved one. Our Ambassador Sabine offers advice and recommends a book to read.
Cooking for One by Simon Beckett Allen
BOOK:This new book is designed to help newly bereaved people learn to love cooking for themselves at a time when they may have lost interest in food or never learned to cook.
The Smart Grief Guide
WEBSITE: Developed to help young people find a way through their feelings .
Help is at Hand
BOOKLET: A resource for people bereaved through suicide or other unexplained death, and for those supporting them
Understanding Bereavement - The Welsh Version
BOOKLET: A Welsh language short leaflet introducing Cruse Bereavement Care and providing information about bereavement
Finding the words
BOOKLET: How to support someone who has been bereaved and affected by suicide
Books Beyond Words - Mini Bereavement Set
A collection of four books which cover bereavement and death suitable for people who find pictures easier than words, including learning disabilities and those whose first language is not English.
Coroners and Inquests: What to Expect
If your loved one died unexpectedly, by suicide, in an accident or in unexplained causes, the death will be referred to a Coroner. Find out everything you need to know about this process here.
Good Grief- Embracing Life at a Time of Death, Catherine Mayer and Anne Mayer Bird
BOOK: Mother and daughter Catherine and Anne, face widowhood on the eve of the pandemic. Sandi Toksvig says this is "The most life-affirming book ever written about death."
What to do when someone dies: National Bereavement Service
BOOKLET: A very helpful little guide to everything you need to do following a bereavement and a handy checklist on the back.
Funerals: Organisations that can help
WEBSITES: Organisations - faith-based and secular -that can help and advise about loved ones' funerals and help you find a celebrant
Government Departments you need to notify about a death
Useful links to Government departments to notify them about a death
What Does Dead Mean? by Caroline Jay and Jenni Thomas
BOOK: A Book for Young Children to Help Explain Death and Dying
Death, Grief and Hope - Version for men and women in prison
BOOKLET: Downloadable Christian resource which looks to tell the truth about what happens when someone dies and how to understand our feelings.
Death, grief and hope for adults.
BOOKLET: Downloadable Christian resource which looks to tell the truth about what happens when someone dies and how to understand our feelings.
Katy Braine : Goodness Gracious Grief
WEBSITE: Looking at how we can help each other grieve.
If There’s Anything I Can Do: How to Help Someone Who Has Been Bereaved by Caroline Voaden
BOOK: Caroline Voaden explains how it feels to be bereaved and what helped her in the weeks, months and years following her bereavement.
Funerals: A Guide by James Bentley, Andrew Best & Jackie Hunt
BOOK: An anthology of prayers, readings, hymns and music, drawn from a wide range of faiths and traditions
Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy by Sandberg & Grant
BOOK: After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again.
Supporting yourself and others: Coping with death and grief during the Covid-19 pandemic
WEBSITE & LEAFLET A useful leaflet produced by the British Psychological Society
Understanding Grief- An Introduction by Richard Gross
BOOK: A comprehensive and accessible 'one stop' introduction to all the major models of grief.
When God Weeps byJoni Eareckson Tada & Steven Estes
BOOK: Why Our Sufferings Matter to the Almighty
Yvonne Tulloch, Faith Questions in Bereavement
BOOK: For anyone who has been bereaved at any time, or anyone who is interested in the faith questions that naturally arise when someone dies.
Simran Jeet Singh, Sikh Ways of Grieving
WEBSITE: A useful website and article that explains how Sikhs comfort the dying, mark death, comfort the bereaved and celebrate life.
Anita Diamant, Saying Kiddish: How to Comfort the Dying, Bury the Dead and Mourn as a Jew
BOOK: A book that helps move one through grief according to Judaism’s beliefs and customs in layman’s terms.
Natural Death Centre
WEBSITE: Informative website about planning a woodland or green burial.
Humanist Funerals
WEBSITE: Website contact details for arranging a humanist funeral in the UK
Beyond Words - Coronavirus
BOOKS, E BOOKS: Resources for people who find it easier to understand pictures than words
Arranging a funeral in church
WEBSITE: Church of England advice and resources for a church funeral
The Art of Dying Well
WEBSITE: The Art of Dying Well offers practical and spiritual support to those faced with the prospect of death and dying.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
WEBSITE: Counselling and bereavement advocacy organisation
Saltwater and Honey
WEBSITE: Mutual support for those feeling grief because of infertility, miscarriage and other losses
AtaLoss.org: Preventing Posthumous Identity Fraud
WEB PAGES ON THIS WEBSITE: Information from the AtaLoss.org website about protecting yourself and your family from fraud in the event of your own death or after the death of a loved one.
A Valley Journal Resources through blogs, articles and books on grief and how to handle it.
WEBSITE: Living with loss grief resources. A useful website curated by Abi May.
BBC News Article, If you die early, how will your children remember you?
ARTICLE: A useful article about how bereavement affected Gaby Eirew and how she used 'legacy' to look forward.
Life as a widower A young widowed father opening up about living with loss
WEBSITE: A website set up by a young widowed father opening up about living with loss and telling his child about the death of his mother.
National Disasters. Have you been affected?
WEBSITE: A charity website founded by survivors and bereaved people from UK and overseas disasters providing support and guidance.
The Grief Survival Guide by Jeff Brazier
BOOK: The Grief Survival Guide is a book that offers practical advice on everything from preparing for the eventuality of death, managing grief, how best to support family and friends, and moving forward.
Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death and Surviving by Julia Samuel
BOOK: In Julia Samuel's book we hear stories from those who have experienced great love and great loss - and survived.
Rainbows Through the Rain: An Anthology of Hope by Fiona Castle
BOOK: A book about the depths of grief and the possibility of hope.
Inside Grief: A Personal Journey: Hope for the Grieving and Those Who Care for Them by Katy Laity O'Brien
BOOK: Inside Grief is book and a personal account of coping with grief through which the author reaches out to others in a similar position.
Surprised by Grief (on being widowed young) by Janine Fair
BOOK: In her book, Janine places her grief in the context of a transition in order to understand her 'voyage of hope', ending with gratitude to God for all she has received from his hands.
First Steps Through Bereavement by Sue Mayfield
BOOK: First Steps through Bereavement is an indispensable guide through the process of mourning a loved one.
Living With Bereavement by Sue Mayfield
BOOK: A helpful guide about living with bereavement.
Grieving God’s Way by Margaret Brownley
BOOK: Grieving God's Way is a 90-day read designed to bring hope and healing to those who have experienced loss.
Lament for a Son by Nicholas Wolterstorff
BOOK: The author of this book, lost his 25-year-old son Eric in a mountain climbing accident, has started the long, unwanted journey to come to terms with his grief.
CS Lewis, A Grief Observed
BOOK: Grief Observed comprises the reflections of the great scholar and Christian on the death of his wife after only a few short years of marriage. Book.
Gerry Sittser, A Grace Revealed
BOOK: A biography that has become a classic on the topic of grief and loss.
A Grace Disguised by Gerry Sittser
BOOK: An expanded edition of this classic book on grief and loss-with a new preface and epilogue.
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
BOOK: A portrait of a marriage and a life – in good times and bad – that will speak to anyone who has ever loved a husband or wife or child. A stunning book of electric honesty and passion.
Alison Wertheimer, A Special Scar: The Experiences of People Bereaved by Suicide
BOOK: A 'Special Scar' looks in detail at the stigma surrounding suicide and offers practical help for survivors, relatives and friends of people who have taken their own life.
The Long Sleep: Young People and Suicide by Kate Hill
BOOK: This book is an exploration of the origins, symptoms and meanings of young peoples' suicidal crises.
Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide by Kay Redfield Jamison
BOOK: A book about the difficult subject of suicide.
Phyllis R. Silverman & Madelyn Kelly, A Parent’s Guide to Raising Grieving Children: Rebuilding Your Family after the Death of a Loved One
BOOK: A book for parents about raising grieving children.
I’m Grieving as Fast as I Can (On Being Widowed) by Linda Feinberg
BOOK: A book about how Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal
Death and How to Survive it by Kate Boydell
BOOK: This book is a unique and practical guide to coming to terms with the loss of your partner
Jane Brooks, Midlife Orphan
BOOK: Jane Brooks shows us in her book how to find new sources of strength, in both ourselves and others, after our parents are gone.
Death and the Family: The Importance of Mourning by Lily Pincus
BOOK: This book deals in detail with what happens when death interrupts close relationships.
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman
BOOK: Motherless Daughters explores the impact on women of losing their mother.
Bill Merrington, 101 Ways to Cope with Grief and Loss
BOOK: This book provides guidance and aid to the bereaved on their journey through grief and loss.
The Courage to Grieve by Judith Tatelbaum
BOOK: Creative Living, Recovery and Growth Through Grief
10 Ways to help you through the seasons (Autumn)
WEBSITE: Bereavement UK'S practical guide to helping the bereaved deal with the seasons and anniversaries
Pets - What to do if you or a loved one dies and can no longer look after a pet
The Cinnamon Trust and Dogs Trust can help.